How to deal with the trauma of failure in Competition exams?


Have you been preparing for the dreaded REET exam for years? Did you put everything you had into clearing this one exam and yet landed with nothing in your hand? Coming straight to the point, did you fail in any competition exam in the year 2020? We know these questions hurt you deep down and make you feel like breaking down, but good news for you – This is not the end of the world!

We know that you would have spent all your time, efforts, hopes, and aspirations into cracking the examination to reach your dream job, but the results did not turn out in your favor. It’s okay to feel bad about it, but there’s absolutely no reason to be stressed about it. Life is a roller coaster ride and has its fair share of successes and failures.

Every year, lakhs of students sit in varied competition examinations with the hope of getting the selection. However, due to the high competition, innumerable candidates, difficulty level, and a smaller number of seats, the rate of failure in this exam are high. Unfortunately, if you are one of those who couldn’t make it to your favorite stream, frown not and read this article. Life is a sea of opportunities, and who knows if something better awaits you?

How to deal with this stress?

The first thing you must consider doing this to acknowledge that you are stressed and try to reduce it so that you are in a better position to think about plan B. Here are some tips by which you can get rid of this trauma.

Embrace your Emotions

Failure never comes alone and is always accompanied by feelings like embarrassment, anxiety, grief, fear, and anger. These feelings are natural, but people get over-whelmed by these and would do anything to keep them away. However, you must know that allowing yourself to feel bad is motivating. It gives you the drive to work harder next time and think of better ways to get success. So, go ahead and embrace how you feel.

Recognize Unhealthy Attempts

You might be tempted to say, “Oh! I didn’t need to clear this exam in the first place”. Giving yourself false consolations, using narcotics, drugs, or alcohol to fill the void won’t heal any of your pain. Acknowledge your unhealthy attempts to reduce pain and try to have a halt on it.

Practice Healthy Coping Skills

The best way to deal with this stress is to talk about it. You can call a friend, take a relaxing warm bath, practice deep breathing, go out for a walk, or do anything that makes you feel better. It is crucial that you find healthy coping mechanisms that work for you. It is a “hit and trial” method, so feel free to explore what works the best for you.

Acknowledge Irrational Beliefs about Failure

Many of us have irrational beliefs like failing means you did not give your 100% or even worse, thinking that you do not have what it takes to be successful. Failure is just a matter of situations and circumstances which can be changed. Do not let your failure define you.

Accept an Appropriate Level of Responsibility

Acceptance is the first step towards moving on. Accept that you are responsible for your failure and it is only you who can turn this into success. Once you have accepted it, forgive yourself and work hard to stand on your feet again.

Ask Yourself What You Can Learn

Always learn from your mistakes. Recall what mistakes did you commit that led to your failure and make sure to take a lesson from the same. Try not to repeat the same mistakes again and think about how you can do it differently the next time.

Create a Plan for Moving Forward

This is, by far, the most crucial step. The only way to move on from your failure is to divert your energy to the next plan.  Plan out what options you have in hand and gear yourself up for it.

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